Understanding and connecting with people older and younger than yourself
We don’t all see the world in the same ways. In today’s world, we’re confronted all the time by diverse ways of thinking and acting. To be successful in engaging with other people, and to improve our ability to communicate effectively, to engage other people, to sell to them, manage them, influence them and connect with them, we need to develop an understanding of how other people see the world. This is influenced by many factors, including gender, personality, culture, religion and education.
One factor that is often overlooked is the influence of someone’s age – or more accurately, the influence of the era in which someone’s value systems were shaped and formed as a young person. This is what generational theory focuses on. It provides fascinating insights into what makes other people tick, and offers practical implications for the way in which we connect with them.
From a business perspective, by understanding the impact of different generations, inside and outside your organisation you can improve customer relationships, communications, team dynamics, recruitment, leadership effectiveness and the productivity and interactions of your teams. We need to understand what shaped and formed Boomers, Gen Xers and Gen Y, and why younger and older people – staff, customers, family and friends – have such different expectations and approaches to life, leadership, work and relationships. Our ability to connect with others lies not in more techniques or cuter strategies, but rather in understanding that a radical value system shift is currently taking place in society. This shift is best explained by generational theory.
What are ‘Generations’?
Generational theory is another tool in the segmentation or profiling toolbox. Simply stated, it shows that the era in which a person was born affects the development of their view of the world. Our value systems are shaped in the first two decades of our lives, by our families, our friends, our communities, significant events and the general era in which we are born. In the past century, global forces were at work like never before, and therefore many people throughout the world have had similar experiences or have had to face similar situations at the same time. And since we live in a globalised world, with similar influences at play in different countries at the same time, people of the same age are likely to have similar value systems, regardless of their country or community of birth.
For example, from the late 1960s to the end of the 1980s, the world was in chaos. Everywhere. And then came a major tipping point. In 1989, Gorbachev came to power in Russia and announced perestroika and banned the communist party. In South Africa, de Klerk came to power and announced the ending of apartheid, the release of Mandela (he was eventually released in February 1990) and unbanned the communist party. In Romania, in 1989, the dictator Nicolae Ceauşescu was overthrown and Eastern Europe began to open up. In Germany, students punched the air with the global clenched fist “power salute” as they danced on the Berlin Wall and smashed it to pieces. In China, students did the same on Tiananmen Square, as tanks rolled over them. And America invaded Panama in one of their early “pre-emptive strikes”. All this in 1989 – a tipping point in recent global history. The generation of children born during the 1970s and 80s – the decades that led up to these tectonic shifts in global power – were greatly affected, developing an air of scepticism about adult control of the world, a sense of impermanence and a pragmatic view of power and power structures. These are the so-called “Generation Xers”, who are currently entering midlife, and starting to have an impact as decision makers in the workplace.
Using generational theory, we can predict how these younger generations will grow up. We can look back at the way in which older, and still living generations have grown up and what they are like today, based on the influences they experienced in their youth. We can then postulate about the different influences on today’s young people, and how they might be affected as they grow up through the predictable lifestages every generation must go through.
Strauss and Howe, the current generation gurus, summarise it this way on their ‘Fourth Turning’ website: “History creates generations, and generations create history. The cycle draws forward energy from each generation’s need to redefine the social role of each new phase of life it enters. And it draws circular energy from each generation’s tendency to fill perceived gaps and to correct (indeed, overcorrect) the excesses of its elders.”
Studying the Generations
Generational theory has been around for many centuries[i], but was popularised in its current form by Neil Howe and William Strauss in the early 1990s[ii]. The theory of generations is a sociological and anthropological model. As such, it deals in generalisations, not specifics. Over-generalisations that are nevertheless filled with truth, and provide a helpful starting point for discussions and understanding.
While generations have existed since recorded humanity, the differences between them, because of the slow pace of life, have not been as dramatic and as overt as they are now. It was the advent of the Industrial era with its factories and production lines, which impacted massively on the pace of life. In the 20th century, further Industrialisation, a shift to an information economy, and the present transition to a connection economy, have continued to create change. Rapid advances in technology and media combined with changing social mores have given each generation in the last century its own, unique, set of experiences and values. As time, and events, began accelerating, the concept of generational identity has become more important to describe each new generation.
Defining the Generations
To understand and successfully interact with people from different generations it’s important to be familiar with what makes them tick.
Silent Generation (born 1920s – 1940s)
While not the oldest living generation, this is the oldest that still exerts economic influence on the world of work. They were influenced in their youth by the Great Depression and World War II. They are conservative, hard-working and structured, preferring rules, order and formal hierarchies. They have a “waste not, want not” mentality, and hate getting into debt. Their idea of progress is slow, incremental advancement, while minimising risk.
Defining and guiding values:
- Duty before pleasure
- Adherence to rules
- Hard work
- Law and order
- Respect for position
- Self sufficient
- Delayed reward
- Reticent to express emotion
- Waste not want not
Baby Boomers (1940s – 1960s)
Baby Boomers are the postwar generation, the drugs, sex, and rock ‘n’ roll set who grew up during a time of grand visions. The idealistic visions of politicians and those fighting for freedom, or of those putting a man on the moon, all served to energise a generation of young people, who were simultaneously being culturally and socially revolutionised. They initiated anti-Vietnam rallies, and were the young people on the streets on June 16, 1976, in South Africa or of Portugal in the Carnation Revolution of 25 April 1974. Boomers are passionately concerned about participation in the workplace, motivated by vision, mission and strategy, and care about creating a fair and level playing field for all. They love conspicuous consumption and have created more wealth (and accumulated more debt) than any other generation, ever.
Defining and guiding values:
- Team orientation
- Personal growth
- Personal gratification
- Group together by similarity of belief
- Media savvy
- Big talkers
Xers (mid 1960s – late 1980s)
Generation Xers grew up as “latchkey kids”, children of divorce, experiencing an era of crises – from Watergate and June 16, 1976, to the energy crisis and the collapse of communism, it was clear the adults didn’t know what was going on. Today, they need options and flexibility; they dislike close supervision, preferring freedom and an outputs-driven workplace. They love change so much they actually need it – as long as they’re in control of it. Xers strive for balance in their lives – they work to have a life; they don’t live to work.
Defining and guiding values:
- Global awareness
- Lifelong learning
- Immediate gratification
- Thrill seekers
- Not scared of failure
Generation Y / Millennials (1989 – 2008)
Gen Y’s earliest years are characterised by massive social and political change all around the world. Starting in 1989 and extending into the 1990s, communism collapsed, once-closed countries began to open up, and a new era of technology dawned with the birth of the world wide web and mobile phones. These young people are living in an age of unprecedented diversity and exposure to other cultures. They are growing up quickly, too quickly, some would say. They’re confident, and want to change the world.
Defining and guiding values:
- High self-esteem
- Media & entertainment overloaded
- Street smart
- Civic duty
- Ethical consumption
- Global citizens, with a multi-everything view
iFacebook Generation (2008 – present)
Still children now, the main indicators as to how this generation will develop are technology and the parenting style of its largely Generation X parents. The iFacebook Generation is the first generation to be born fully into the digital age, with no memory of a pre-internet world. They assume “connectedness” and have access to a vast reserve of information, meaning they can easily indulge their interests and passions from an early age. In many ways they are indulged as children, with small families, ‘helicopter’ parents managing their every move and a very structured life. But unlike the laissez-fair style of the Boomers, Generation X parents tend to hark back to some more ‘traditional’ values such as hard work, manners, responsibility and strength in adversity.
The generation cycle suggests that the iFacebook Generation may grow up with a similar set of values to their Silent grand (or great-grand) parents, but with a 21st century digital twist.
Why this is important
The challenge for leaders comes from a clash of the generations: a collision of values, expectations, ambitions and attitudes. In addition, the human factor is increasingly important for maintaining a competitive advantage in business.
In virtually every industry, the competitors are becoming indistinguishable on the basis of product or service. What a company sells is becoming less and less of a competitive advantage. Competing companies offer the same stuff at about the same price and quality, to the same people, delivering through similar channels and advertising in the same media using similar techniques. And they even swap staff every few years. Innovation is not the competitive edge it used to be either. Even if one company comes up with the industry’s “next big thing”, their competitors will copy it within a matter of days (without the R&D costs).
Competitive advantage is therefore less and less about what a company sells, and more and more about who a company is, and how it sells. In this environment, talent is the primary commodity, and the ability to attract, retain, nurture and motivate talented staff is a critical success factor for any company in any industry. It is vital to create an “internal environment that allows people to individually and collectively create far more value than they could if they were employed elsewhere.”[iii] Generational theory provides a powerful framework for creating such an environment, where multiple generations interact effectively.
Generations @ Work
There have been massive changes from the Industrial era, Silent generation, “Organisation Man” to the Connection economy, Xer, “Bright Young Things”. The former went off to work, dressed in his suit and tie, and the correct, conventional attitude to his lifelong job, from which he retired at age 65. The latter, a “whatever”, techno-brilliant Xer, carries her business in her laptop, works in jeans at coffee bars and feels little loyalty for companies that tossed her loyal Boomer parents on to the scrap heap during the last economic downturn.
The change in the contract between company and employee is the biggest generational shift of all in the workplace. The old contract was simple: an employee came into an organisation and accepted the values of the company, bought into the vision and mission, and sold the company’s products to the company’s customers, using the company’s systems, vocabulary, methods and processes. In other words, they made themselves virtually unmarketable anywhere else, which wasn’t a problem since the company offered employment as long as they wanted it. The employees paid their dues, working like slaves for a few years in order to be fast tracked up the company structures. In return, the company guaranteed that there would be a management position available a few years from now.
But how many companies can offer such security these days? Even if they did, would we believe them? If companies cannot offer security, why are they still asking for loyalty? If they cannot long-term commitment, why are they still asking for it? Many companies have just given up. Yet, loyalty is still available – it must just be purchased with a different currency. That currency includes helping employees (and even customers) develop generic skills and remain marketable, creating an environment that values fun, flexibility and freedom, and giving them constant, timely, honest feedback on everything they do.
The scary truth is that the more marketable and mobile your best employees feel, the more likely they are to stay with you. You have to help them develop skills beyond their current job functions and ensure they’re continually developing in new ways. They need constant change – even chaotic change – and value being given options.
Generation Xers and Ys value flexibility highly. They’re asking questions like, “If I answer emails on a Saturday night, can I watch movies on a Tuesday morning?” and “If I take my work home, can I bring my family to the office?” We’ve known about telecommuting, virtual offices, remote management, flexi-time and “hot desking” for many years now. This generation of young employees is just going to make sure we do something about it. And as customers, they’re demanding more flexibility, too. No longer will they accept the excuse from your front line staff that “the system won’t allow it”. They know that all systems can be changed (and overridden) and they will continue to demand “mass customisation” from the companies with whom they interact.
Personal Lives at Work
Today’s young workers don’t understand why they must “leave their personal lives at home”. They need a workplace that will allow them to make personal phone calls, send personal emails, and be flexible enough to let them take care of personal issues that must be dealt with during office hours. They would also be very attracted to workplaces that offered amenities like gyms, “chill out” spaces, crèches and daycare centres and areas for entertainment (we know of a call centre that built a skate park in the carpark for their employees, for example).
Don’t misunderstand this list. Generation Xers and Ys understand that all these things come at a price. “With great power comes great responsibility”. They’re aware that with responsibility comes accountability. In fact, they expect to be held accountable for what they do – even brutally accountable. Any environment that allows too much slack (as opposed to flexibility and freedom) is one that they will want to leave quite quickly. They’re prepared to put in serious effort, as long as they know they’ll be rewarded and recognised for it. But if the environment encourages (and even inadvertently rewards) loafing, then that is what you will get.
The easiest way to kill an Xer is to micromanage her. Xers like to be told what must be done, and then left alone to do it. In fact, at the heart of this desire is an understanding that people should be paid for their outputs, not their inputs. No longer should people be paid for just arriving at work. We need to transition to a world where people are rewarded for the quality and speed of their outputs. Generation Xers are ready for that world – and are starting to demand it, as employees and as customers.
Unfortunately, there are no quick fix answers, no “one size fits all” solutions, and simply making a few tweaks to your HR policy won’t work. To adjust to a new generation in a new century requires a change of attitude, a mindset shift, and systemic changes in organisational structures. The good news is that it isn’t as hard to do as you think. And if you do make the shift, you’ll open yourself up to such a leap forward in competitive advantage that the pain will be well worth it.
The key is the people. Jeff Immelt, CEO of GE, said when he took the job that “HR is not on the agenda. HR is the agenda.”[iv] “Our people are our most important asset” needs to come out of the chairman’s report in the annual financial statements, and become a reality in the world we live in. You can’t afford to lose another “bright young thing”. You need to start bridging the gaps today.
[i] In recent times, Morris Massey was a legend in academic circles in the early 1970s for identifying the arriving Boomers in his lecture tour, Who You Are Is What You Were When. Margaret Mead before him identified generation development in Polynesian islanders. The primary European contributors to generation theory in the twentieth century have been José Ortega y Gasset, Karl Mannheim, Julius Peterson, Willhelm Pinder and Julían Marías. John Zimmerman offers a summary of their contributions in “Leadership Across the Gaps Between Generations” In Crux (Vol. 31, No. 2, June 1995. pg. 42-54). But the concept is even older than this. Historically, other philosophers who have attempted to describe the theory include Auguste Comte, Maximilien Littré, John Stuart Mill, Gustav Rümelin, Ottokar Lorenz, Wilhelm Dilthey and Emile Durkheim. A fourteenth century Bedouin, Ibn Khaldun, was the first philosopher to describe a four-generation cycle in detail (see Marías, Julían (1970), Generations: A Historical Method. Trans. Harold Raley. Alabama: Alabama University Press, pg. 198-207). Greek historian, Cicero, Greek writers, Heraclitus and Homer, Chinese philosopher, Lin Yü-t’ang, and the writers of the Old Testament (especially the book of Judges), show that this cyclical nature of history and generational development has not just been recently noticed. [ii] Their first book was Generations (1991, New York, William Morrow), followed by a more accessible version which became a best seller, The Fourth Turning (1997, New York, Broadway Books), and a website, http://www.fourthturning.com. [iii] Goshal, S and Bartlett, C (1997). The Individualized Corporation. London, Random House. p176. [iv] Reported in Harvard Business Review, Leadership Special Edition, August 2003.